Finally, my two cents about getting over suckouts - play more poker. Just keep playing and playing, get tons of volume, and over time you'll just stop caring. You'll have seen it all. You'll have been one-outed and two-outed more times than you can count, had opponents suck out to royal flushes, and all kinds of other things. It won't even register when you lose your 8,539th flip on the bubble of a final table. De-sensitising is a thing, and it works!

+1 million to that last bit! its true too

Also, +1 to the suggestion of reading Jared Tendler, he's the nuts for developing your mental game. Absolutely essential.

I also want to chime in about getting tilted by people talking in the chat box - I believe you should approach people who berate in chat the same way you should approach trolls on internet forums. You don't spend your time getting into endless arguments with the trolls, you don't fall for their baiting, because they're pathetic. They're just trying to get a laugh out of pissing everyone else off because they have nothing better to do - similarly, people who berate you in chat are just taking out all the frustrations of their life on you.

You don't respect or listen to people who troll internet forums with random abuse, so don't respect or listen to people who tell you to go die of cancer or something equally deplorable in the PokerStars chat box. They're not worthy of it. Every time I see someone abusing me in chat, I chuckle to myself, roll my eyes, and almost always, eliminate the possibility that they're actually good at poker. In almost 4 million hands of online poker since 2009, I've never berated anyone in chat and I've never broken anything because of tilt.

Finally, my two cents about getting over suckouts - play more poker. Just keep playing and playing, get tons of volume, and over time you'll just stop caring. You'll have seen it all. You'll have been one-outed and two-outed more times than you can count, had opponents suck out to royal flushes, and all kinds of other things. It won't even register when you lose your 8,539th flip on the bubble of a final table. De-sensitising is a thing, and it works!

Thanks for this, I got a good laugh out of it and it's legit good advice as well.

I recommend Tommy Angelo's Elements of Poker. You need to learn not to have an emotional attachment to the elements of the game. That includes the cards and also the other players. You don't have any right to win the pot just because you have the best hand, you aren't "supposed" to win, your opponents aren't "supposed" to treat you some way or another, and it isn't natural or normal or necessary to get upset when things you didn't want to happen happen. All of these things, even rude opponents, are just obstacles you have to overcome. If aspired to be an olympic hurdler, would you scream and kick something every time you came to a hurdle in the course? Presumably you would practice getting over it as quickly as possible, and that's what you should do with bad beats.

ex.. not betting enough on the turn (trying to slow play) ,over valuing top pair on the river,

that is why i think that video series of analyzing one hand is great for it can help correct mistakes..

as for complete sucks out like we got set of aces and they got set of kings and they river quads nothing can be there.

One tip that has helped me loads is simply taking a deep breath before any big decision. I found that this helps clear the fog that can happen in awkward turn or river situation. I find I tilt the most when I rush decisions and make decisions I instantly regret.

Dont rush decisions, breathe more, take your time, tilt less. However, its easier said than done.

I bought on audio book and listened to it driving to work for a solid month. I can't recommend it enough. He explains the psycology of tilt in detail and gives some mental tools to manage your reaction. Definitely worth a look. Cheaper than buying new puters too.

Great book! I have read this book on my way to play WSOP event#56 NLHE this year and finished 142nd out of 2798 players. Control emotion is the most important part of this game and that needs lots of pratice.

I've thought about this for quite some time.  I'm going to remove player chat, I understand that tilt information can be obtained by assessing someones reaction to a particular situation and you may be able to capitalize on that.  However, this may also be easily seen through their play even in the next hand (overbets, tilt 3bets, station-calling tendencies they didn't possess before etc.).  I have stated many times to other players that I really don't tilt but I will say now that I was not being honest.  Tilting even the slightest bit can cause you to commit chip-suicide and you may not even realize it at the time.  Your thinking is skewed because you were not focused to your full potential.  It is imperative that you understand how bad variance can be in tournaments if you are going to play them.

In order to improve your reaction to tilt-inducing hands I recommend walking away from the computer for a few seconds and doing a few pushups (punching bag is a good idea too) or finding it in yourself recall there are percentages in each hand.  Even if they have 2 outs they are going to hit them and it might be at a crucial time in a tournament.  Having other tournaments up can also improve this, try and maintain focus on several tournaments to build stacks so losing one of them isn't as big of a deal.  I understand if this is a Sunday Major or some tournament you have dreamt of winning this is going to be hard, but percentages do not change regardless of what tourney you are in.  If you study vids, I mean take serious notes on hands, review and maintain your focus on each hand to learn even more about it than the pros are stating and review your HHs very objectively you may find your game improving faster than you imagined.  Also, work on your early to midgame, learn to build big stacks more often so not only can you afford these beats you will have more chances to make these types of runs.

The biggest thing is just working on your game day in and day out.  Try new lines, whether in a tournament or in your head while you are on your evening jog.  There is a reason the pros have made good money and a lot of it comes from focus, creativity, awareness, practice, and the ability to understand even if they make it to the final two tables of a huge tournament they may still finish 13th.  There is no perfect cure to your syndrome, but I promise you working hard outside of the game will help you improve faster and more efficiently than just firing up tourneys every night and occasionally listening to a podcast or watching videos.  I am only recently practicing many of these aspects, but I'm already seeing monumental improvements in my mental game and play.  I could go on all night but I'm exhausted, I hope this helps at least one person.

Such a great post...cant even begin to adequately express how good. Will be re-reading in the future I can assume. Thanks DJRog